Self-esteem is the acceptance, respect, confidence and satisfaction that you have in yourself as a person. It is based on an internal image of ourselves that we have, consciously and subconsciously…..Self-esteem is a concept that has been highly linked to health and one’s overall well-being…..But what exactly is self-esteem? Is this the same as confidence, or is it something that we should further understand to enhance our self esteem ?

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We begin to create our internal image in childhood based on our interactions with others and our environment. Especially the signals and feedback we receive from our parents at first. Then, from our performance in school and sports and how likable our childhood friends, family members and perhaps our siblings make us feel.

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During these formative years, if we receive negative feedback, we may later on suffer from low self esteem in adulthood. This is harmful, because your self esteem will determine the way you interact with the world:

    • Your personal identity, image and dignity.
    • How you value, treat and take care of yourself.
    • How you judge everybody around you.
    • How you take decisions and handle relationships.
    • If your self-regard is evaluated on the way others perceive you and you already perceive yourself negatively, you will only see the negative and ignore any positives.

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This constant quest to conform and be accepted by their peers is a major stress factor, that leads to low self-esteem.

Healthy self esteem enables you to be proud without being overbearing, approach your circumstances with a positive attitude.

The Rosenberg scale is considered highly reliable and consistent, which is why it has become the most cited scale for measuring self-esteem. The 10 items used for this scale are:

    1. On the whole, I am satisfied with myself.
      At times I think I am no good at all.
      3. I feel that I have a number of good qualities.
      4. I am able to do things as well as most other people.
      5. I feel I do not have much to be proud of.
      6. I certainly feel useless at times.
      7. I feel that I’m a person of worth.
      8. I wish I could have more respect for myself.
      9. I am inclined to think that I am a failure.
      10. I take a positive attitude toward myself….Improving your self-esteem takes a lot of work and dedication, as you’ll need to willingly get out of your comfort zone..

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Although self-esteem is important in sustaining a good level of mental health, it’s perfectly natural if you feel insecure every now and then.

But self-esteem will definitely help you stay strong through the countless challenges you will face in life.

Confidence is really what a healthy self esteem looks and feel like.

    • Self-esteem is your opinion of yourself.
    • Everyone lacks confidence occasionally but people with low self-esteem are unhappy or unsatisfied with themselves most of the time.
    • It takes attention and daily practice to boost a low self-esteem.

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Seek out support to build self-esteem


Further ways to build self-esteem include:

    • Talk to a trusted friend or loved one about your self-esteem issues.
    • Browse the Better Health Channel for further information.
    • See your doctor for information, advice and possible referral.
    • Read books on self-development.
    • Take a course in personal development.
    • Discuss your issues and get advice from a trained therapist.



Published by TinaB

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2 thoughts on “Self-Esteem/Confidence.

  1. Awesome and truthful post, Tina! Self-esteem and self-confidence do determine how we interact with other and ultimately, our outcomes in life. Thank you for posting.


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